Oral sex for beginners

Whether you use the technical term fellatio or call it a blowjob, going down, giving head, or something else, performing fellatio is an act that requires a lot of trust and a little bit of knowledge. If you believe everything you hear, you might think that guys love this so much technique and intent don't matter. Think again. In reality, there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference. We mostly think of fellatio as being one person licking or sucking a partner's penis. Keep in mind that while most men have penises, not all do.

Just like the rest of your sex routine, oral benefits from mixing it up. For those with vulvas, there are typically two kinds of toys that mimic the pleasure of oral sex: suction vibrators that feel like suction and use waves and vibration for ultra-intense oral feeling and faux-tongue-like toys that have rubber or silicone nubbins that mimic the more superficial feeling of a literal tongue on your vulva. For faux-tongue-mimicry, we like the Lelo Ora 3, which has a thin layer of silicone stretched over a drum with a tongue-like nubbin that moves in circles and different patterns, that along with vibration, can feel very real. You can also use these toys with a partner the next time your tongue gets tired, or show your partner how you like to be pleasured. Likewise for those with male partners, a blowjob sleeve can be a great way to reacquaint themselves with just how pleasurable oral can really be.

Penis-in-vagina sex is not the be-all-end-all of sex. Oral sex can be just as pleasurable — if not more so — than penetrative sex. You know whose genital juice tastes like cookies and cream? We all have a taste down there. Avoid garlic, onions, asparagus, and cabbage, which reportedly make for a less-than-pleasant flavor.

With lesbian women being much more likely to orgasm during sex according to a survey of 6, people , and the simple fact that tons of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, it should come as no surprise that many of us are trying to close to orgasm gap by talking more openly about—and encouraging more—oral sex. While acts beyond oral sex can obviously offer stimulation to the clit, oral sex offers a specific sensation that many people enjoy, according to Engle. It can feel wetter, lighter and more pleasurable to take you from plateau to orgasm. Yes I eat the fruit.