Having an orgasm is natural. So is skipping, for instance. Someone presumably taught you how to coordinate your body, and soon you were doing it on your own, any time you felt like it. The same is generally true for orgasms. The process of becoming aroused and having an orgasm is a two-part process: turning on "the ons" and turning off "the offs. With that in mind, here are ten reasons why women can struggle with the orgasm and suggestions for how to remedy that struggle.
Why Can't I Cum? 10 Reasons Women Don't Always Have Orgasms
And let me tell you, it's the opposite of sexy. If you've found yourself in this position, obsessing over the "why," know this: it may be complicated, but this issue is actually incredibly common. D , a sexologist and relationship expert. Totally bunk, it turns out. While most men will experience some sort of inability to orgasm from time to time, there is a more serious condition delayed ejaculation syndrome.
Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Many women have difficulty reaching orgasm, and some even find it impossible. Many more women can orgasm, but only very rarely.
Of course, I thought something was wrong with me because what seemed to cum so easily to everyone else see what I did there? For starters, the orgasm gap is real AF. In fact, according to a study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior , only 65 percent of heterosexual women reported that they "usually or always orgasmed when sexually intimate," compared to 95 percent of heterosexual men sigh. That number only increases by 1! Lesbian women not-so-surprisingly have it best, with 86 percent saying they usually or always orgasmed during sex.